When Compassion Becomes a Calling: Lessons from Nehemiah 1:2–4
From the book: "Snatched from the Claws of a Narcissist" by Anuri Mabel
Discover how narcissists use Scripture to control and silence their victims. This eye-opening blog exposes spiritual manipulation and reveals God's true heart for abused women.
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He didn’t raise his hand.
He didn’t scream.
But he used verses like shackles.
He quoted Scripture when you wanted to speak.
He reminded you to “submit” when you questioned him.
He told you that leaving was rebellion against God.
That, beloved, is gaslighting—wrapped in religion.
“Even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.” — 2 Corinthians 11:14
And it’s not God’s heart for you.
God’s Word heals. It uplifts. It sets captives free.
It was never meant to be used to keep you in chains.
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The Gaslight Gospel is what narcissists use to twist God's truth into a tool of fear, guilt, and control.
Here’s how it sounds:
“A godly woman never questions her husband.”
“You’re not submissive enough—that’s why there’s strife.”
“You’ll lose God’s favor if you leave.”
“God hates divorce—so you're stuck with me.”
This isn't the gospel.
It's emotional manipulation dressed as theology.
“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil…” — Isaiah 5:20
When Jesus quoted the Word, it was always to:
Heal the broken
Confront injustice
Speak truth to power
Defend the defenseless
He never used it to silence victims or excuse cruelty.
So why do narcissists?
Because they want power, not partnership.
They want obedience, not understanding.
They want silence, not healing.
Twisted meaning: You must obey everything, even abuse.
True meaning: Submission is mutual, loving, and never abusive (see verse 21).
Twisted meaning: You must stay no matter what.
True meaning: God also hates abuse, betrayal, and injustice.
Twisted meaning: Keep enduring mistreatment.
True meaning: Don't seek revenge—but you can walk away.
Twisted meaning: Don’t confront abuse—just forgive.
True meaning: Forgiveness isn’t the same as reconciliation.
Twisted meaning: Your voice is the problem.
True meaning: Narcissists provoke, then blame your reaction.
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The truth will set you free, not trap you.
“Study to show yourself approved…” — 2 Timothy 2:15
Find community that uplifts, not suppresses.
Church is not meant to be a place of guilt—but of grace.
Spiritual manipulation is still abuse.
And God never, ever calls His daughters to stay under abuse in the name of religion.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted…” — Psalm 34:18
God doesn’t gaslight.
God doesn’t confuse.
God doesn’t threaten you into obedience.
He leads with love.
He walks with mercy.
He speaks with gentleness and justice.
“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.” — Galatians 5:1
Dear woman of God,
You are not sinful for wanting peace.
You are not rebellious for desiring truth.
You are not disobedient for walking away from manipulation.
God's Word is your shield, not your prison.
Let the real gospel—the one that heals, redeems, and restores—be louder than the lies you've been told.
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